التسجيل التعليمـــات التقويم البحث مشاركات اليوم اجعل كافة الأقسام مقروءة


اضافة رد

أدوات الموضوع انواع عرض الموضوع

قديم 03-12-2013, 09:36 PM   #1

الصورة الرمزية مُزُنْ
مُزُنْ غير متواجد حالياً

بيانات اضافيه [ + ]
 رقم العضوية : 681
 تاريخ التسجيل :  Oct 2011
 أخر زيارة : 26-06-2019 (02:22 PM)
 المشاركات : 29,733 [ + ]
 التقييم :  2147483647
 الجنس ~
 MMS ~
لوني المفضل : Cadetblue
افتراضي Controlling Anger -- Before It Controls you



We all know what anger is, and we've all felt it: whether as a fleeting annoyance or as full-fledged rage.
Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion.
But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems—problems at work,
in your personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life.
And it can make you feel as though you're at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion.
This brochure is meant to help you understand and control anger.


How a psychologist can help you manage anger
Therapy can teach you easy strategies for controlling your temper.
Most people get angry at least a few times a week. That’s perfectly normal, say psychologists.
What’s not normal is intense anger that happens more frequently and lasts longer than the brief irritation most of us occasionally feel. Other warning signs include physical aggression, nasty responses and problems with your relationships, job or health as a result of your temper.
Therapy can help. Psychologists use three basic strategies to treat anger:
Relaxation. Psychologists train patients in a technique called “progressive relaxation”
until they’re able to relax simply by thinking of a particular word or image. Psychologists then ask patients to spend a minute or two thinking intensely about a situation that makes them excessively angry, such as other drivers going too slow. Psychologists then help patients relax. Psychologists and patients practice this sequence over and over again. After about eight sessions, patients are typically able to relax on their own. Cognitive therapy. Often the way people think when they’re angry makes situations worse. When another driver cuts you off, for instance, you might think, “You idiot! Everyone’s trying to make me late today!” In cognitive therapy, psychologists help patients find alternative ways of thinking about and reacting to anger. Instead of thinking bad thoughts about the other driver, for example, you could think instead, “Whoa! That was an accident waiting to happen.” Skill development. Learning new behaviors can also help.
Parents might need to find better ways of communicating with their children, for instance.
Angry drivers might benefit from learning safe driving skills.

Everybody gets angry, but out-of-control rage isn't good for you or those around you. When you can't control your anger, you may get into fist-fights or drive recklessly, for example, endangering yourself and others.
But anger also plays havoc with your own body. Research shows that anger can increase people's — especially men's — chances of developing coronary heart disease and having worse outcomes if they already have heart disease.1 anger can also lead to stress-related problems, such as insomnia, digestive problems, and headaches.
You can learn to control your anger, however. In one study for example, cognitive-behavioral therapy improved people's control of their anger and reduced their hostility, aggression, and depression.2 Here are some strategies you can use to simmer down. If you are in a relationship with a hot-tempered partner, you could both benefit from these techniques.

Simple relaxation tools, such as deep breathing and relaxing imagery, can help soothe angry feelings.
Try these simple steps:
Breathe deeply, from your diaphragm. Breathing from your chest won't relax you, so picture your breath coming up from your "gut."Slowly repeat a calming word or phrase, such as "relax" or "take it easy." Keep repeating it to yourself while breathing deeply.Use imagery. Visualize a relaxing experience from your memory or your imagination.Try non-strenuous, slow exercises. Yoga and similar activities can relax your muscles and calm you down.
Practice these techniques daily. Eventually, you'll be able to use them automatically when you're in a tense situation.
Cognitive Restructuring
Simply put, cognitive restructuring means changing the way you think. When you're angry, your thinking can get overly dramatic. When something goes wrong, you might tell yourself, "Everything's ruined!" With cognitive restructuring, you replace those kinds of thoughts with more reasonable ones. You might tell yourself instead, "This is frustrating, but it's not the end of the world."
Try these strategies:
Avoid words like "never" or "always" when talking about yourself or others. Statements like "This never works" or "You're always forgetting things" make you feel your anger is justified and there's no way to solve the problem. Such statements also alienate and humiliate people who might otherwise be willing to work with you on a solution.Focus on goals. Say you have a friend who's constantly late when you get together. Don't go on the attack. Instead, think about what you want to accomplish. State the problem and then try to find a solution that works for both of you. If that doesn't work, take matters into your own hands. You might tell your friend to meet you half an hour earlier than you plan to arrive, so that he or she will get there when you do. Either way, the problem is solved — without damaging the friendship.Use logic. Even when it's justified, anger can quickly become irrational. Remind yourself that the world is not out to get you and that you're just experiencing one of life's inevitable rough spots. Do this each time you start feeling angry, and you'll get a more balanced perspective.Translate expectations into desires. Angry people tend to demand things, whether it's fairness, appreciation, agreement, or just the willingness to do things their way. We are all hurt, disappointed, and frustrated when we don't get what we want, but don't let disappointment turn into anger. Some people use anger as a way to avoid feeling hurt, but that doesn't make the hurt go away. Instead, become aware of your demanding nature and change your demands into requests. Saying you would like something is healthier than saying you must have it.
Sometimes anger and frustration are the result of very real and inescapable problems in our lives. anger can be a healthy, natural response to these difficulties. Some people have a cultural belief that every problem has a solution. That belief adds to their frustration when they find out that this isn't always true. If you can't find a solution, focus on how to handle and face the problem.
Make a plan and check your progress along the way, using a guide to organizing or time management if needed. Give it your best, but don't punish yourself if you don't find an answer right away.
Better Communication
Angry people tend to jump to conclusions, however far-fetched. If you are in a heated discussion, slow down. Listen carefully to what the other person is saying. And take your time before answering. Instead of saying the first thing that comes into your head, think carefully about what you want to say.
Think about what's behind your anger. Say you value your freedom, but your significant other wants more closeness. If he or she starts complaining, don't retaliate by painting you partner as a jailer.
It's natural to get defensive when you're criticized, but don't fight back. Instead, listen to what's beneath the words. Perhaps the real message is that your partner feels neglected and unloved. It may take patient questioning, but don't let anger spin things out of control.
Humor can help defuse rage in several ways.
For one thing, it can help you get a more balanced perspective. When you find yourself thinking of a coworker as a single-cell life form, think what that would look like, picturing an amoeba sitting at a desk and talking on the phone. Or draw a picture. Doing so will take the edge off your fury or help defuse a tense situation.
Humor can also help when you find yourself being unreasonable. If you find yourself thinking that things not going your way is an unbearable indignity you shouldn't have to tolerate, picture yourself as a god or goddess who always gets your way while others defer to you. The more detail you add, the more you'll realize how unreasonable you are and how unimportant the things you're angry about really are.
There are two cautions in using humor. First, don't try to just "laugh off" your problems. Rather, use humor to help yourself face them more constructively. Second, don't use harsh, sarcastic humor. Such humor is just another form of aggression.
What these techniques have in common is a refusal to take yourself too seriously.
Environmental Change
Sometimes it's your immediate circumstances that prompt angry feelings. Problems and responsibilities can weigh on you and make you angry at the trap you seem to have fallen into — and all the people and things that form that trap.
Take road rage, for example. If driving makes you furious, research suggests, you're putting yourself and others at risk.3 Angry drivers are more aggressive, take more chances, and report more accidents and near-misses than their more relaxed counterparts. If your commute leaves you frustrated or enraged, perhaps you could find a less congested or more scenic route. Or investigate alternative options, such as taking a bus or train. Finding alternatives can ease your anger, making the road safer for everyone.
Try these other tips for easing up:
Give yourself a break. Make sure to schedule some personal time during especially stressful parts of the day. You might have a rule that the first 15 minutes after coming home from work will be quiet time, for example. With this brief respite, you'll feel better prepared to handle demands from your kids without blowing up.Consider the timing. If you and your spouse tend to fight at night, perhaps it's because you're tired, distracted, or just accustomed to fighting then. Try changing the times when you talk about important matters so these talks don't turn into arguments.Avoid what you can. If you get furious when you walk by your child's messy room, shut the door. Don't make yourself look at what infuriates you. And don't tell yourself your child should clean up so you won't have to be angry. That's not the point: The point is to keep yourself calm.
How a Psychologist Can Help
If you continue to feel overwhelmed, consult with a psychologist or other licensed mental health professional who can help you learn how to control your anger. He or she can help you identify problem areas and then develop an action plan for changing them.
Practicing psychologists use a variety of evidence-based treatments — most commonly therapy — to help people improve their lives. Psychologists, who have doctoral degrees, receive one of the highest levels of education of any health care professionals. On average, they spend seven years in education and training following their undergraduate degrees.
Article Sources
Chida, Y., & Steptoe, A. (2009). "The association of anger and hostility with future coronary heart disease: A meta-analytic review of prospective evidence." Journal of the American College of Cardiology, 53 (11): 936-946.McCloskey, M.S., Noblett, K.L., & et al. (2008). "Cognitive-behavioral therapy for intermittent explosive disorder: A pilot randomized clinical trial." Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology, 76 (5): 876-876.Deffenbacher, J.L. (2009). "Angry drivers: Characteristics and clinical interventions." Revista Mexicana de Psicología, 26 (1): 5-16.
APA gratefully acknowledges the assistance of Charles Spielberger, PhD, and Jerry Deffenbacher, PhD, in developing this fact sheet.
Revised October 2011

Controlling Anger -- Before It Controls you anger before controlling controls

 توقيع : مُزُنْ

رد مع اقتباس
قديم 04-12-2013, 10:29 PM   #2
نبضات مجروحه
~¦ رغد مميز ¦~

الصورة الرمزية نبضات مجروحه
نبضات مجروحه غير متواجد حالياً

بيانات اضافيه [ + ]
 رقم العضوية : 48
 تاريخ التسجيل :  May 2011
 أخر زيارة : 26-07-2016 (03:43 PM)
 المشاركات : 18,812 [ + ]
 التقييم :  736862579
Saudi Arabia
 الجنس ~
لوني المفضل : Black
افتراضي رد: Controlling Anger -- Before It Controls you

سلمت الايادي
ننتظر كل جديد ومميز منك
دمتِ بخير

 توقيع : نبضات مجروحه
كُلُّ وِعَاءٍ يَضِيقُ بِمَا جُعِلَ فِيهِ إِلاَّ وِعَاءَ الْعِلْمِ، فَإِنَّهُ يَتَّسِعُ

رد مع اقتباس
قديم 04-04-2015, 11:51 AM   #3

الصورة الرمزية juman96
juman96 غير متواجد حالياً

بيانات اضافيه [ + ]
 رقم العضوية : 2
 تاريخ التسجيل :  Apr 2011
 أخر زيارة : 26-06-2019 (01:37 PM)
 المشاركات : 16,580 [ + ]
 التقييم :  388687963
 الجنس ~
 MMS ~
لوني المفضل : Crimson
افتراضي رد: Controlling Anger -- Before It Controls you

يعطيك العافية لآهنتِ وقوآكك آللهَ

 توقيع : juman96

رد مع اقتباس

اضافة رد

الكلمات الدلالية (Tags)
anger, before, controlling, controls

أدوات الموضوع
انواع عرض الموضوع

تعليمات المشاركة
لا تستطيع إضافة مواضيع جديدة
لا تستطيع الرد على المواضيع
لا تستطيع إرفاق ملفات
لا تستطيع تعديل مشاركاتك

BB code is متاحة
كود [IMG] متاحة
كود HTML معطلة

الانتقال السريع


الساعة الآن 09:45 PM

أقسام المنتدى

. , وطن مختلف ♪ @ - النقاش والحوار ‘ @ مَن عَرف ربهُ ، رأي كُل مافي الحياة جميلاً ♪ @ - روحآنيةة مُسلم ومِسًـلَمِة : تجمّل بِ آلحسنآتَ @ - صَوتيآتْ إسلآميه ، قرآن mp3 ، تلاوات ،‘ أناشيد آسلآميه ‘ @ . . لآنني آنثى رقيقه ♪ @ - آلمطبخ والمآكولآت آلشهيه ‘ @ - آلعيآده آلصحيّه و مآئدة آلرشآقه ، @ - صَخب آلجوآل @ . . اِسترخاء بلون آخر ♪ @ - آلبوم آلصور _لوحآت ‘ @ منتدى العرب المسافرون @ - - ضجةة . . آلآقسآم آلتقنيه ♪ @ . . جدآئل من آلآبدآع ♪ @ - آلطَريق آلى آلآبدآع ‘ @ هنآ . . خلف الكوآليس ♪ @ ) خآرج آلآقوآس ( @ | لمن يهمه آلآمر | @ الأخبار القرارات الإدارية @ - هنآ حيثُ يسكننآ آلهدوءْ ‘ مدونتي @ . . رجل بِ كآريزمآ ♪ @ آنآقة آدم ‘ @ - عالم السيارات ‘ @ - آزيآء وآنآقه ‘عطورهآ bath&body @ _ الحياة الأسرية والأجتماعية @ | نقطة وصل | @ _ الكمبيوتر والبرامج @ - آلعنآيه بآلبشره والشعر | skin care_ Hair care @ - كلّ مَ يحتآجه : آلمُصمم ‘ @ . , الاقسام التعليمية @ _التعليم الجامعي وآلمكَتبه الثقافية @ _التعليم العام @ _القرآن الكريم وتفسيره @ -خَلفيآت وَ رَمزيآتَ Social Media @ _ _ لغّتُيّ ٱلعربّيّة وكلّ لغآت آلعآلم ‘ @ - آلديكور وتآثيث آلمنزلَ ‘ @ _ التوحيد ( ولله الأسماء الحسنى ) @ . , الاقسام العامة ♪ @ قَٱعة ٱلتُشّريّفُٱتُ @ - بصمآت طُبعت لِ آلذكَرى ‘ @ - آلعآلم بينَ يديكك ، عروض التوظيف ‘ @ - - فن التعامل وتطويرالذات ‘ @ - مآذآ : يُحكَى سلَفآ ‘ @ -قطآف عآمه / حولَ مَ يُكتب ‘ @ - ورقَه وَمحبره ‘ @ نٌزَفُ آلَمِدُآدُ @ ٱلسًيّرة ٱلنٌبّوِيّة وِتُرٱجَم ٱلعلمٱء والحديث @